Dear Parishioners, I would like to invite you to take part in this year’s Cardinal’s Annual Stewardship Appeal (CASA). This Appeal supports many important needs of the Church, including parishes, priests, seminarians, and many ministries that serve people across our Archdiocese. Our parish is also one of the beneficiaries of this program, so our participation is a meaningful sign that we recognize these needs and want to be part of this work. Please see below to see how St. Stephen’s has benefitted from Cardinal’s Appeal funds. Please remember it is not about the size of the gift. If someone is able to give a larger donation, we are very grateful. But even a small gift matters. What is important is that many families from our parish take part in this Appeal. This is a beautiful sign of our positive response as a parish community and our willingness to support the needs of the Church. Donation envelopes are available at the back of the church. You may also give online using the link provided. When giving online, you will see two options: “Archdiocese” and “Parish.” Please choose “Parish” so that your gift will be credited to our parish. In the parish message line, please write: 556 – St. Stephen’s, Warwick Thank you for your generosity, your faith, and your willingness to support this important Appeal. Fr. Slawek
How does CASA Benefit St. Stephen’s? Sharing God’s Gift Grant This past year, a grant program entitled “Sharing God’s Gifts” was developed in the Archdiocese of New York funded by the Cardinal’s Annual Stewardship Appeal. Parishes across the archdiocese were encouraged to apply for funds to help create or enhance parish programs. St. Stephen’s received a $10,000 Sharing God’s Gifts grant focused on younger families in the parish. Through grant funds, the Family Faith Formation program was able to purchase upgraded technology for use in the classroom. The grant also helped fund many of the Family Events that were held throughout the school year, including All Saints Night in October, the Advent- related events in December, the Three Kings Procession in January, and the Shadow Box Stations of the Cross during Lent. Once a year, we hold a Baptism Brunch for those families who had children baptized that year in our parish. This event brings young families together to reconnect with the parish and meet other young families at a similar stage in life. As a direct result of this Brunch, the Little Lambs Ministry was formed. Little Lambs meets on Friday mornings at the Parish Community Center providing a safe and nurturing environment for young children and parents or guardians to connect. We have had very positive feedback on both the Brunch and Little Lambs Ministry. Finally, if you look around during Mass you may see young children with a tote bag of age- and faith-appropriate items to help keep them quietly occupied. These Mass Bags were funded entirely with funds from Sharing God’s Gifts. Additionally, St. Stephen’s has purchased a subscription to Magnifikids!, a booklet with Mass readings and activities appropriate for older children who may not be ready for the full Missal. Both the Mass Bags and Magnifikids! booklets allow families to get more out of the Mass and encourage regular attendance. St. Stephen’s currently has an application in for the next round of Sharing God’s Gifts grants to further enhance Family Faith Formation and continue to support families within our parish. Parishioners often think that their appeal donations go “downtown” never to be seen again. Rest assured, your support of the Cardinal’s Appeal has had and will continue to have a very tangible and positive impact right here at St. Stephen’s Church.
How to Receive Communion in the Hand
From time to time, someone tells me after Mass, “Father, something was not right during Communion.” I am grateful when people speak up, because it shows love for the Eucharist. But very often the concern comes too late – an hour later, or even a day or two later – when the moment to respond has already passed. If we truly believe that the Eucharist is the Body of Christ, then this question becomes urgent. That is why I want to speak clearly and simply about Holy Communion: not because people have bad intentions, but because many do not fully understand what the Eucharist is, how it should be received, and why the Church treats it with such reverence. This also tells us something important: the Eucharist matters deeply to our people. It is not just a ritual. It is the heart of our faith. When something seems unclear, people notice.
Why this matters From the beginning, the Church has treated the Eucharist with reverence. In the Acts of the Apostles, we read that the first Christians devoted themselves to the teaching of the Apostles, fellowship, the breaking of the bread, and the prayers (Acts 2:42). The Eucharist was central then, and it is central now. The Church continues this same teaching. We believe that the Eucharist is not only a symbol. It is the Real Presence of Jesus Christ – His Body and Blood. That is why the way we receive Holy Communion matters.
A common situation in parish life We are blessed with many faithful parishioners who come every week. We are also blessed to welcome many guests – at weddings, funerals, Christmas, Easter, and other special celebrations. Some guests are Catholic but may not know the current practice well. Some are not Catholic. Many are sincere people of faith. In many families today, religious backgrounds are mixed, and during major feasts and family celebrations we often come to church together. This is a good time for Catholic family members to gently remind their relatives about the Church’s teaching on Holy Communion and who may receive it. Not everyone fully understands what Holy Communion means in the Catholic Church. When Communion begins, almost everyone may stand and come forward. Still, Holy Communion is not just something we do automatically because we are at Mass. The Church gives clear guidance so that we treat the Eucharist with reverence and receive Holy Communion in the right way.
Who may receive Holy Communion Holy Communion may be received by Catholics who are properly prepared:
baptized in the Catholic Church (or received into full communion with the Catholic Church),
have received First Holy Communion,
and are in a state of grace (that is, not conscious of unconfessed mortal sin).
If someone is not Catholic, or is not prepared to receive Holy Communion, that person is warmly invited to remain in the pew and pray quietly. This is not a rejection. It is a sign of respect for the Eucharist and for the teaching of the Church.
Why we sometimes need to respond quickly From time to time, situations happen: someone receives the Host and does not consume it right away, walks away with it, or seems unsure what to do. When I see this, I try to respond immediately. Sometimes I go to the pew afterward to make sure the Host has been consumed. I do this not to embarrass anyone, but because we are speaking about the Body of Christ. This is also why parishioners should not be afraid to alert a priest or minister calmly if something seems wrong. We do not react with anger. We react with reverence and care.
A word about our parish celebrations We are blessed to have extraordinary ministers of Holy Communion who assist at Mass. Their service is especially valuable during large celebrations. These liturgies also require special attentiveness. This is true for all of us, and especially for those who distribute Holy Communion. When many people come forward – especially at Christmas, Easter, weddings, and funerals – we need to be especially careful that the Eucharist is treated with reverence and care. For this reason, before Communion at major celebrations, we will continue to give short reminders of the basic guidelines.
Basic Guidelines for Receiving Holy Communion
Holy Communion may be received by practicing Catholics who are properly prepared and in a state of grace.
If you are not Catholic or are not prepared to receive, please remain in your pew and pray quietly.
Holy Communion may be received either on the tongue or in the hand. The choice belongs to the person receiving.
When you come forward, the minister says: “The Body of Christ.”
You respond clearly: “Amen.” This “Amen” means: “I believe.” It is your personal profession of faith in the Real Presence of Jesus.
If you receive in the hand, your hands should be clean and free. Place one hand over the other like a throne. Receive the Host and consume it immediately in the presence of the minister. Please do not walk away with the Host.
If you receive on the tongue, step forward reverently, respond “Amen,” and receive with care.
Please do not approach with your hands in your pockets or while holding objects, if you are receiving in the hand.
Please do not come forward while chewing gum. There is a real danger that the Host could be mixed with gum and later spit out. The Eucharist must be received and consumed with reverence and full attention.
These are not rules for the sake of rules These guidelines are not about being strict for no reason. They are simple ways to protect something sacred. Saint Paul warned the Church to receive the Body and Blood of the Lord with discernment and reverence: “Therefore whoever eats the bread or drinks the cup of the Lord unworthily will have to answer for the body and blood of the Lord. A person should examine himself, and so eat the bread and drink the cup. For anyone who eats and drinks without discerning the body, eats and drinks judgment on himself.(1 Corinthians 11:27–29). The Church teaches the same today. The Eucharist is a gift, and we must receive this gift with faith, attention, and respect. The Eucharist is our encounter with Christ. The way we receive Him should reflect what we believe.
A renewed effort in our parish Some time ago, I began explaining different parts of the Eucharist and the Mass more systematically. That work was interrupted by many responsibilities. Now, during Lent, I would like to return to it with renewed focus and consistency. In the coming weeks:
short explanations will appear regularly in the bulletin,
brief reminders will be given before Communion at major celebrations,
and I will prepare simple reflections on different parts of the Mass.
For many of you, this will be a reminder of what you already know. For some, it may bring back lessons from religious education. For others, it may clarify something that was never fully explained.
A parish effort to grow together If you think an important question should be addressed, please share your suggestion. Together, we can build something meaningful – a simple parish guide to help us celebrate the Eucharist well and meet Christ with greater reverence and understanding. The Eucharist is the center of our parish life. Let us receive Him as believers who know what we are doing – and why.
Below is a proposed list of topics that would be worth covering. If you notice anything that may be missing, too brief, or in need of further clarification, please let me know. I. Foundations
What is the Holy Mass?
Why Sunday matters / obligation
Structure of the Mass
Active participation
Sacred time and sacred space
II. Before Mass
Interior preparation
Clothing / behavior / gestures
Entering church (genuflection/bow)
Holy water
Bringing intentions to Mass
III. Introductory Rites
Entrance chant/procession
Sign of the Cross
Liturgical greeting
Penitential Act + Kyrie
Gloria + Collect
IV. Liturgy of the Word
Why Scripture is proclaimed
First Reading
Responsorial Psalm
Second Reading
Gospel Acclamation + Gospel + small crosses
Homily
Creed
Prayer of the Faithful
V. Liturgy of the Eucharist
Word and Eucharist as one act
Preparation of Gifts + Offertory + Prayer over the Offerings
Preface
Sanctus
Eucharistic Prayer + Epiclesis + Consecration + Real Presence
Elevation and adoration
Memorial Acclamation
Sacrifice of Christ and the Church
Intercessions in Eucharistic Prayer
Doxology and Great Amen
VI. Communion Rite
Communion Rite steps before receiving (Our Father / Peace / Lamb of God / “Lord, I am not worthy”)
Holy Communion: who receives whom
Who may receive Communion
How to receive worthily + hand/tongue + postures
Silence + Prayer after Communion
VII. Concluding Rites and Mission
Announcements and what belongs to liturgy
Blessing
Dismissal
Exit procession / reverence
Mass lived in daily life
What if I feel nothing?
Eucharist and daily decisions / relationships / regular participation
VIII. Eucharistic faith beyond Mass
Tabernacle + genuflection + adoration
Communion for the sick
Thank you for your attention to these important matters regarding the Holy Eucharist and I look forward to your input on future topics.